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When a Loved One Commits SuicideCoping with Suicide Notes, Feelings of Guilt, & Social Isolation
When someone you love takes his or her own life, the social isolation and stigma may exacerbate feelings of grief. Here are several myths and facts about suicide.
Suicides are nearly twice as common as homicides, says Indiana University professor of psychology John McIntosh. He’s an expert in suicide prevention, and offers insight into people who kill themselves, suicide notes, social isolation, and feelings of grief. Signs of Suicide RiskMcIntosh says that talking about suicide is the most common sign that someone is at risk. If someone talks about suicide, call a suicide prevention professional immediately. Distress lines and help hotlines can provide support with the appropriate steps and insight into suicidal behavior. Highest Risks of Suicidal BehaviorOld men commit suicide most often. The number of older people who kill themselves is higher than the number of young people who commit suicide. Men are more likely to commit suicide, but women are more likely to talk about thoughts of suicide. Coping with Suicide NotesAccording to McIntosh, suicide notes are rare and don’t usually offer explanations of why the person took his or her own life. "Suicide notes are found in only 25 percent of cases. Even when there is a note, it is almost never revealing or informative," McIntosh said. "The note might say, 'I love you' or where to find a bank account, but it typically does not give an explanation for why the person did this. There are few insights into their psyche." People who kill themselves may feel like they can’t reach out and communicate their feelings. Living with Guilt and Social IsolationWhen a loved one commits suicide, the survivors may feel angry and guilty for not noticing that something was wrong. Because suicide still carries a negative stigma, survivors may feel socially isolated. It may be more difficult for them to talk about their feelings and share why their loved one died. The effects of suicide are similar to the effects of any sudden loss: shock, disbelief, and feelings of anger or guilt. Searching for answers is common when people kill themselves. What to Say to the Survivors of SuicideMcIntosh offers suggestions for what to say and do when someone has lost a loved one to suicide. “Tell them you are sorry for their loss, give them instrumental support with their daily needs, and don't dwell exclusively on the way that their loved one died. Recognize that they may feel very sensitive about the circumstances and try to avoid platitudes like, 'I know how you feel,' if you haven't experienced the same situation," he said. If you found When a Loved One Commits Suicide helpful, you might be interested in: Source: “Suicide Myths and Facts” in Living Well: Health and Wellness Tips on Medical News Today.
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